Let’s Talk BDSM … ‘Beyond The Session’

This blog is being written in collaboration and alongside my great friend and fellow domina Miss Jasmine, with whom I studied whilst doing my degree. The views and opinions expressed in this blog are my own, however we both have similar thoughts on this subject and share a strong fascination with the psychological element of BDSM.

Law of Attraction states that what you put out to the universe is what comes back to you. Basically if you think something it will happen. Perhaps then it is no coincidence that a large percentage of the clients I have been approached by have had some level of interest in more than ‘Just a session’.

Although relatively new to being a prodomina, I quickly got the sense that some people were searching for more than just a session. It got me to thinking, reflecting on what it is exactly they are searching for. I also found myself reflecting on the sessions I enjoyed the most, the ones that were more fulfilling for both myself and the sub, seeking to identify what it was that contributed to a fulfilling session.

Being a trained psychotherapist my interest within BDSM definitely extends ‘Beyond The Session’, and whilst in my role as a prodomina I wish to make clear that I am not acting as your therapist, I cannot ignore the ethical and moral values instilled into me from my training. I also do not wish to ignore the skills I developed as I believe they are greatly beneficial and of use within the world of BDSM.

So am I talking aftercare ? Yes, kind of. I’m talking about all round care, something deeper than just a face value session. Whilst not for everyone, I have experienced as I am sure other dommes have, the difficulty some subs have reconciling their BDSM self with their vanilla self, and the two very different worlds that they potentially inhabit.

Do you ever feel alone ? Scared that your fetish or desire isn’t normal ? Or have you experienced the infamous ‘sub low’ creeping in following a fantastic session?

It is my belief that the best sessions happen when the domme and submissive relationship reaches a deeper level of psychological contact. However inevitably the higher the high, the lower the low in the anti climax that follows. When something amazing happens to us it is human nature to share that experience with others. But what if your amazing experience was with a mistress and she is the only one you can share your fetish and fantasies with ? Where do all those thoughts go ? Those feelings, those experiences.

With this in mind I have decided to extend my services to include talking sessions. As I perceive every submissive to be unique, I also envisage their needs in this area to be. Therefore how this will be carried out will vary dependant upon both the submissives needs and my availability. It is my vision to offer my submissives a higher level of interaction than a session provides or maybe just a place to talk without fear of judgment, to explore their thoughts feelings and fantasies.

If you feel that my blog has struck a chord I now have a section entitled ‘Beyond The Session’ which gives more detailed information on this area and what I am able to offer. I also welcome your thoughts and views. Thank you for reading.

Miss A x

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